Eat Food, Have Sex, Spend Money

In the search for spiritual insight, we tend to skip the most immediate points of access. We go looking in books, doctrines, and inherited beliefs, while the life we are living holds some of the clearest clues.

How we relate to food — to our bodies, hunger and satisfaction. How we relate to sex — to connection, desire, intimacy, and pleasure. How we relate to money — to earning, spending, and accumulating. These aren't detours from the spiritual path. They are the path.

Life is always a mirror. And some of the most honest mirrors we have are right in front of us: on the dinner table, in the bedroom, in the bank account.

Spirituality happens in and through the body.

Food, sex, money — these are some of the best parts of being human. Why have a body if we aren't going to enjoy it?

If life was about escaping or conquering the physical urges and appetites, why bother with them? May as well stay in the ether and skip the drama of eating disorders, porn addiction, and credit card debt.

But what if that drama is why you signed up for this rodeo?

What if the very things we most wish to hide — or pretend aren't a part of our lives — are the doorways to our most alive experiences in a 3D world?

Anything that stands between us and joy is a doorway.

Robert Frost said the only way out is through. Joseph Campbell said where you stumble and fall, there you will find gold. I say it like this: suffering isn't punishment. Your darkness isn't failure. Your shadow is the friend you haven't met yet — who holds the keys to your deepest desires and highest hopes.

This is the work. And the work isn't "work," it's reunion with yourself.

This is not a structured course with lessons and homework.

This is for people who have already done the work. Tried all the things. Gone to the conferences. Read the self-help books. Hired the coach. Built a spiritual practice, even if it doesn't look like anyone else's.

This is not an unpacking of trauma. It is for those who are ready to use their own life as the curriculum.

It is for those who are ready to use their own life as the curriculum.

The curriculum is exactly this: the food. The sex. The money.

We meet every other Sunday evening, 7:00–9:00pm, virtually. Each conversation opens with a short personal narrative talk — true story, lived experience — followed by discussion questions and open group sharing. The container is honest, intimate, and off the record.

On alternating weeks, I send a short video or message: something to sit with, inquire into, and bring back to the group.

Ten to twelve people per cohort. Application only.

$147/month. 3 Month Commitment Minimum, then continue, pause, or stop as needed.

An in-person Asheville cohort may be available in the future. For now, we meet online.

This is not open enrollment. The following application questions have no right or wrong answer. They exist here to give you a taste of conversational content.

1. If you had to rank them from most pleasurable to least, in what order would you place: eating food, having sex, spending money?
2. Describe your relationship to your body.
3. What's a question you never want to have to answer out loud?
4. What does shadow work mean to you — and how does that concept feel? Scary? Mysterious? Intriguing?
5. Describe an area of life where you've grown significantly. Where did you start, where are you now, and how did that happen?
6. What's the worst thing life has ever randomly dealt you?